Love, Obsession, Possession

Love, Obsession, Possession. Easy to confuse all three during the span of a relationship. This weekend I had a marathon viewing of the Korean drama, Something Happened in Bali available for purchase on amazon. Also known as Memories in Bali/What Happened in Bali/Hearts in Bali. This 20 episode Korean drama stars Ha Ji Won as Lee Soo-Jung, an orphaned, down on her luck, multi-lingual travel agent in Bali. While in Bali she is assigned to be the tour guide for the rich heir Jung Jae-Min (the excellent Jo In Sung), his arranged fiance Choi Young-Joo (Park Ye Jin) and Kang In-Wook (So Ji Sub), the ex-boyfriend Young-Joo still loves but cannot marry due to parental disapproval. This meeting in Bali sets forth a series of events that follow all four back to Seoul and makes one ponder; How far will you go for the one you love or to attain wealth?

 

The questions that came to my mind are "When does love turn to Obsession?" "Does loving someone mean you want to possess them?" "Don't the three; love, obsession and possession intertwine at some point?" When you love someone, you want them to be happy, you want to give them all you can, you will sacrifice all you have for their well being. Love is selfless. But then, there is a different side of love, one where you want to own what you feel is slipping away from you. Possession is owning. The person you love belongs to you and you feel the need to let everyone including your love know this. Then there is obsession. You want to know everything there is to know about the other person. Where they are, who they are with, what they are doing, what they are thinking. You are consumed with each and everything about this person. Doesn't possession and obsession come when there is uncertainty in one's relationship or lack of a requited love? How do you learn to distinguish between the three when involved in a love triangle? Watch this drama to see how these four individuals learn to deal when they are faced with this dilemma.